Will Smith, The Pursuit of Happyness and My 45 Cents Thrown In For Good Measure.

Hey! Dig the trailer for Will Smiths new movie, ” In The Pursuit of Happyness”. It’s due to hit box offices near you this December. It looks like a winner. * two thumbs up*

Synopsis: The drama centers on Chris Gardner (Smith), a sporadically employed salesman who wins custody of his young son just as he is about to begin a stock brokerage intern program. America fell in love with the real life character, who was left jobless and homeless at age 30 due to a series of circumstances, and later found himself and his baby son living in a bathroom at a San Francisco train station. (source) — Heart warming storyline indeed. Very inspirational - Kinda coincides with one of my more recent posts and surely worth checking out. Will Smith is a class act and mighty fine actor.

However, the “Bitter Baby Momma” in me would like to say that it’s usually the woman doing everything within her means to raise her child . . . while the man is estranged [doing what the hell he pleases]. You know, it’s funny to me how people tend to lavish men, especially single fathers, with extra kudos and sympathy for taking care of their children. Like some how supporting the needs of his offspring is an automatic lifetime admission, to a coveted spot at the round-table for “Knights in Shining Armor”. He’s a HERO. Sir Lancelot is considered to be a “good man” by potential suitors and the community in general. Every time his name is mentioned someone makes sure to add with great emphasis, “He – takes – care - of – his - children. He’s a single Father, ya know?” - As if the clouds should spell out his name and blue-birds should sing on his shoulder every time he departs from home.

But, isn’t that what a responsible parent is suppose to do - assist with taking care of their child/children - financially and otherwise?

Women however, are EXPECTED to step up to the plate. If she doesn’t fall into line it is considered to be an UNFORGIVEABLE act of neglect and abandonment. She’s a lazy, no good so & so who should stoned to death and burnt to ashes. If or when she does return to her senses, she will forever be responsbile for any and all of her childrens imperfections.

When a woman is faced with the role of a single parent - there aint no extra pats on the back and alla that good shit. [Except for on Mother Day, perhaps. Then it's all about dear Momma for a whole 24 hours. After that, it's back to the mf'n basics for 364 nights and days.] Otherwise, aint nobody thinking about bestowing a sparkling crown upon her head and telling her how great she is. She’s just doing what a mother suppose to do. Aint no suitors looking her way and saying ” Wow! She takes care of her children - she’s a geat catch. Simply remarkable. She’s a “gooooood” woman. ”

“She’s spectacular! She gets her kids every other weekend [that equals twice a month, btw] and takes them to the movies. “

[That last remark is for all of you part-time Dads think who you’re doing it WAY BIG – when you’re really not. So what your 'shorty' spent the weekend with you and you sat their ass down in front of the Play Station all day, while you talked to one of your many girlfriends on the phone, in the other room. Who cares you took "shorty" to the Mall of America for an hour and bought him a new pair of sneakers? Zipitty Doo-Da, bitch. What? You wanna cookie? Kick rocks! Who has the baby M-F and then some? Who's going to doctors appointments and dance recitals? Who's missing work because baby-girl has "pink-eye" and can't return to the day care for 48 hours? Who had to cancel their date because it was your turn to keep shorty - but you're not answering calls when your suppose be home? PART TIME ! PART TIME ! PART TIME ! Part-time and some-time will never equate FULL TIME.]

RECONCILE YOURSELF!!!

“She’s had a long day with the kids. Maybe I should pick up dinner for her and the family and bring it over to her house”. . . [Yeah, right]

But let a woman find out he’s a single Papi - Her ass will be at his house washing the entire clans dirty drawals. In between loads of laundry she’s braiding & beading hair. When the sun goes down she’s giving him “sympathy coochie” - but only after she’s feed, bathed, lotioned up the babies and read them a bed-time story.

Some of ya’ll womens need to be de-programmed. For real.

Why is one gender rewarded and respected and the other just flat out expected? Are good fathers in such short supply and high demand that we feel it’s necessary to hand them a big sparkly, crown jeweled, baton and offer up a 20 piece brass band playing “When The Saints Go Marching In” [New Orleans Style], in honor of his efforts? What’s up with the double standard?

*Ha* Don’t be mad. I’m just saying. If-you-are-a-man-who-takes-care-of-your-child/children- consistently-I-respect-you-as-a-parent-who-is-doing-what’s-right. But, don’t blink twice expectin’ no special attention or cheers from me. That is your job, Dunny. Women do it everyday.

Anyhoo, just thought I’d throw that out there. Cuz single fathers are sooooo great that they make for good Hollywood films. [ I'm just really being extra sarcastic now - I don't fully mean it]

Of course there are always exceptions to the norm.

Yeah . . .*yawn*

What does ANY OF THIS have to do with the movie? Probably nothing. But it’s my blog and I can write what I want to. *sticks out tongue*