It’s All About Me (The Intro) : Just Doing Some Reflecting.

Around this time last year, I was explaining to a handsome young scoundrel (who I knew “off top” would/could never be my soul mate), that I simply would not be spending any more time in his presence. I went on to inform him that I have a lot going on in my life; family matters, career stability, personal issues and self discovery in general. I simply do not have the time for any outside distractions. And that’s what he was . . . a 6,4”, athletic framed, cocoa brown, model-faced, “distraction”. You know the type - the guy that distracts you from being the sensible, street savvy, hip-to-game, chick that you are.

Yeah.

Most of us ladies know this guy well. There are hoards of them in cities and townships world wide. Every woman has encountered at least one in her lifetime. If not, you could be in denial. Sometimes these distractions can be real sweet and comforting. But that wasn’t the case this time around.

Anyhoo, I knew I had to keep it moving and stick to the business of focusing on what’s important – me & mines. Self preservation. Our affiliation was one that could not be sustained. So I told him “I’m doing me right now. I don’t need any distractions.”

His response:
It started off as a deep chuckle and turned to full blown laughter. His laugh sounded as if Dave Chappelle was relentlessly tickling his funny bone with no mercy. It was a friendly laughter though – void of malice or contempt. When he finally came up for air he said:

“When is it NOT about you?”

This was to imply that ‘me, doing me’ was not a new concept I decided to employ since we had started hanging out. Hell, I’m always “doing me”- so what else is new? It was also his way of saying that I can be somewhat self-absorbed. So my reason for cooling my heels on his ass was not as solid as I tried to pull it off to be (or so he thought).

He was right to some degree. I am prone to be self-absorbed. I admit it. But let me explain. . . It’s not that it’s all about me and fuck everyone else. I am down for my people too. I have shared many struggles, joys and pains with my brethren. There have been times in my life that I’ve carried sorrows that weren’t personally my own. I’m all for supporting and riding for my true blue compadres. And I also believe in humility. Yet ultimately, when all is said and done, all you really have in the physical world is yourself. Therefore, it should always be about you, first. And if you see someone as a distraction to what you are trying to achieve in this world, they should get kicked to the curb. The End.

This story morphed into something waaaay longer than I had originally intended. What I had really wanted it to be is an intro for listy-list of things “All About Me”. You know, one of those lists narcissistic people enjoy writing. *lol* Well, I managed to write all of this and a list too. If you don’t care to share, I understand. Otherwise, here goes it. See the next post below . . .